TC told me about this couple that was living together, the the girl wanted to find a different place to stay because they were having "problems". Apparently when the guy talks about something that has little or not relevance to the girl, like modifying a Nerf gun, the girl is interested in the topic because the guy is interested in it. She likes seeing him excited. However, when the girl talks about something that has no relevance to the guy, such as which mascaras are clumpy this week but weren't last week, the guy can't stay interested. I am thinking, "Yikes. What if girls really are more noble/ considerate than guys. Does that mean that girls expect guys to do the same thing?" But I never thought about it. When talking to someone, do I stop as soon as they give non-verbal signs that they aren't interested, or do I finish the story anyway? But what should you talk about? If an engineer is married to a florist, the only real things they will have to talk about that day will be the new things that happened... which will likely be the things that happened that day. But what if the engineer only has stories about dealing with a circuit that has been delayed in shipment that is slowing down the design and the florist deals with a plant that isn't cross breeding like it was thought that it could. Should both give just a short sweet summary of what happened and then... watch something on TV so they can have a common interest? Should they give the long stories to each other risking boring the other person? SHould you pretend to be interested... risking zoning out and getting caught not paying attention and thereby disrespecting the other person that listed to your story with genuine interest... because YOU were the one telling the story?

SOme movie on WE with a redhead and a guy taking a girl on a date. He was nice to her. The guy's name is Blaine. She doesn't want him to take her home. She was beating about it by saying she didn't want to go out or have him take her home. then she broke down saying she didn;t want him to take her home... because she didn't want him to see where she lived. When I first heard this I thought it was because she didn't want him stalking her. Well this is almost a paradox I had thought about when I was younger. Ok, say you are a guy that is trying to be nice but don;t have a lot of self confidence. If you suspect she will think of you as a stalker and not want you to see her house on the first date, you can be "appropriate" and expect this and say "If you don;t want me to see where you live yet, here is my cell phone, I can drop you off somewhere convenient." But if you say that, you loose posture and she gets the feeling that she should be wary of you for some reason. This is why you have to read body language and pick up on speech patterns to get a feel as to what the person means despite what they are saying.

It turns out she was probably embarrassed about the low income neighborhood she lived in and didn't want hm to judge her.